The Number One Reason Why You Are Getting Dumped

Break-ups are painful, especially when you are the one getting dumped and don't even know the reason why.
Sometimes it seems like your love life has a pattern: You meet someone amazing, you both like each other, you started dating and after a couple of weeks or months, they dumped you. 
The reasons they'll give you are going to be different: 

•  "It's not you, it's me"
•  You deserve someone better.
• I am not ready for a relationship.
• I want to focus on my career. 

The good thing is that you are not alone. Many people, men and women, face the same problem over and over again, and most of these people are actually introverts. 

 Are introverts then more likely to get dumped than extroverts?

  I do believe introverts are more likely to get dumped. But, that's mostly because we lack some social skills that could help us know how to act in certain situations.

Introverts usually don't know how to hide their emotions, so when we fall in love, we want to express it. Usually not with words but rather with actions. Somehow, we believe that trying hard is going to get that person to like us more, when its the other way around.

The problem is exactly that: "We try too hard." 
Sometimes to the point to even forget about ourselves just to make the other person happy.  This behavior is seen by others as insecurity.
You are so insecure about yourself that you feel you have to make it up in some other way.  Some of the things you might do in a relationship when you feel insecure is:

• Frequent texts and calls. Even when your partner is busy.
• Need of reassuring that your partner loves you.
• Forgetting about your own needs just to please them.
• Expecting your partner to spend every minute of their free time with you.
• Changing your appearance or personality for your partner.

If you have done any of these things in a relationship, then I can understand why you are getting dumped. 
When you are in a relationship, you are with that person because you want to, not because you need to. The moment you feel like you need to be with him/her, it's going to translate into being insecure and insecurity is one of the most unattractive traits ever.

Next time you date someone, don't worry so much about what they might think of you. Just relax and focus on having fun. Just let things go spontaneously. 
And once, you are in a relationship, don't lose yourself for that other person. You are still an individual person with your own interests. 

 Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean you have to spend every minute with your partner. It's actually healthy for couples to spend some time apart, because that give them the chance to miss each other. 

Relationships shouldn't feel like hard work, because the moment you feel you have to try hard, it's over.  The thing is to love the other person without forgetting about yourself.





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