7 Reasons Why You Are In The Friendzone And What To Do About It

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First of all, we need to explain what is the “friend-zone” because it seems that there is some confusion about it. For most people the friend-zone happens when you are attracted to a friend but that friend doesn’t see you in that way, so basically its just rejection between friends. Another example of friend-zone, is when two friends like each other but they stay friends because they are afraid of ruining their friendship, have in mind that if someone who is not your friend rejects you for any reason, that is not friend-zone, that is just rejection, now its time to figure out why it happens and what can you do about it? If you think you are in the friend-zone these are probably the 7 reasons why you are there.

1. There’s no sexual attraction -Maybe they think you are ugly, maybe you are not their type or maybe they just simply don’t feel anything for you, sometimes there is not a certain reason why someone doesn’t like you, people like what they like and dislike what they dislike, its how we are.

What to do: If this is the reason why you are in the friend-zone, then maybe trying to make you see yourself more attractive might help, maybe a new hairstyle, some new nice clothes or losing weight if you are obese. For women, makeup can help also.

2. They are interested in someone else -If your friend likes someone else, they are probably not going to be interested in you because they have their eyes in that other person and they don’t want to ruin the chances with them.

What to do: In this case you might have to let things take its course, don’t try to change their mind and just keep being their friend, eventually either one of these two things will happen: They will get in a relationship with that other person which you will have to accept and respect, or they will get rejected by that other person and there you will a chance with them.

3. You are not compatible – There can be good chemistry between friends, but that doesn’t mean that you are compatible with them, sometimes you can get along pretty well with someone but somehow your personalities doesn't click in a deeper level which its require for a relationship to work.

What to do: Sadly there is not much to do here, just blame chemistry on it and move on with your life.

4. They don’t see you as confident - Insecurity is a turn-off for both men and women and introvert tend to come across as insecure or shy even when we are not and this can ruin our chances with someone who might prefer someone more outgoing.

What to do: In this case maybe you are not the problem, maybe its them who doesn’t bother to get to know the real you, what you need to do is to forget about this person and find someone who will want to meet the real you.

5. They have commitment issues – Maybe they think you are cute but they don’t want a relationship so instead of saying they don’t want to commit with anyone, they give you the excuse that they just see you as a friend.

What to do: There's no much to do here neither because if you try to change the person, you might get even more hurt so it would be better to move on and find someone who will be able to commit to you.

6. They don’t want to lose the friendship -Some people just want to have friends, friendship itself has a lot of value and some people value that more than a relationship so you shouldn't totally take it personal if someone prefers to have you as a friend rather than as their partner.

What to do: Respect their decision and value their friendship for what it is, if you feel you cannot stand being only friends with them, then I would suggest to stop being friends with this person because it would only hurt you.

7. You are too feminine or too masculine – Some men can be feminine and some women can be masculine, and that is not bad, in fact we all have a feminine and a masculine side, however sometimes some guys can be too feminine that is hard for women to find them attractive because they see them as one of her girlfriends and not as a potential partner, this also happens to women who are too masculine and become “one of the boys” at the eyes of her crush.

What to do: You don’t have to change who you are but you can try to look more like your gender without trying to be fake, you can try to make yourself more desirable to the opposite sex with a new hairtstyle or new clothes, also watch out for the way you act and talk so you don’t seem like you are another one of their buddies.

Sometimes theres no anything you can do about being “friendzoned” sometimes you just have to accept it like the adult you are and stop complaining and blaming the opposite sex for not giving you what you want and then you might give yourself the chance to meet someone who will like you for who you are.