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How can I make someone like me?




This is one of the most common questions single introverts have asked me. How can I make someone like me when I am introvert? Or too ugly? Or hate small talk? But the true is, you cannot just make someone like you, its not like there is a trick or a spell to make someone fall in love, as a cliché as it sounds, love just happens and most of the time when you less expect it, it happens in an effortless way because if you have to force love then isn’t love after all and if isn't love, its not worth it.

I think we all have been on both sides, we have been in a situation when we are rejected by someone we are attracted and also we have rejected someone that we didn’t like, we are humans and we like what we like and while someone might be a nice person and we enjoy their company that wouldn’t mean that we want a relationship with them, the reality is that most of the time we just can’t help what we are attracted to or who we fall in love with.

Does that mean that ugly people are doomed to be alone forever? Absolutely not! Because while some people might think that you are unattractive there always will be someone who will find you attractive. I am going to tell you a personal experience: A friend of mine started hitting on me but I didn’t like him at all, he stopped being my friends after my rejection and I didn’t blame him, the less thing I would want is to hurt someone but I also have to be honest not only with him but also with myself, he was one of those guys who would constantly complain in social media about why girls just wouldn't date him if he was such a nice guy; months later I found out through a mutual friend that one of his friends, a very nice and kind girl was in love with him but he didn’t like her that way.


As you can see, I didn’t like that guy but there was someone who did like him, he just didn’t like her and you can’t be mad about people rejecting you it’s not their fault they don’t find you attractive but there is something you can do instead of complaining about why life didn’t bless you with better looks; you can forget about those people who don’t like you and focus on finding someone who will. Its all about finding the right person and sometimes it will take you a lot of time and disappointments to find them but once you do it will be worth it, but if you keep insisting on people that don’t like you and complaining about why life is so unfair to you then you are wasting precious time that you can be spending in meeting new people who will.

The important thing is that you always be yourself and treat others with respect.



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